All Kidding Aside

[Bombadil]

This is a thread for those who want to lay aside their "party personna" and get serious about things for a while. Many of us (most of us?) play role games whenever we are here, and, like the proverbial class clown, we don't let people get too close to the "real me". They just know the personna. That's OK, but sometimes we need to get genuine with our friends, talk about how we really feel, let others tell us how they really feel. So this will be a serious thread. No artificiality. No role-playing. Just the truth. You don't have to reveal anything you aren't comfortable revealing (as always, be careful about revealing personal information on the internet), but everything you say has to be true, not made up. Other than that restriction, this is a wide open thread.

[Laura]

OK. All kidding aside, I am in love with :heart:Bombadil:heart:. I have been married to him for 28 years. We have 5 grown children. He was enjoying himself on the board, so he introduced me to Fleets. It is fun to play on Fleets with him. We have always enjoyed doing things together. He's a wonderful husband. Just as witty in real life as he is here on Fleets.

[Bombadil]

I admit to being glad that "Laura" decided to join me on this board. Naw, that's not her real name, but it's a name she likes.
I think one of the problems with internet forums is that so many of the people who frequent them are really lonely in real life. ("Real life". I'm not sure I like that particular expression here. What we do/say in this forum is perfectly "real", it's just more or less separated from our flesh-and-blood lives. That doesn't make it "unreal". Maybe I better pursue that thought separately, later.) Anyway, I like having my own wife interested in the same things I am interested in. Does that make me weird? Probably. But I don't care. Fact is, after 28 years my wife and I still like each other. A lot. I enjoy that.

[amberstar]

No wonder the two went for that walk :)

It is good to know that two people can have such a wonderful relationship, and still be close with the passing years!

Amber

[Laura]

Thanks Amber. Yes, it is wonderful. We have also worked together for years.

[julix]

:thumbsup: I congratulate you guys on 28 years of marriage....that is so wonderful. Now I understand about the "walk", but I thought it was cute anyway. I am new to the boards and trying to get "up to speed" . I have fun here it is nice to have a place to hang and chat. I also like the idea of a more serious thread............ :salute:

[Laura]

Thanks Julix. I am new to the board too. I was wondering what everyone thought about Laura and Bombadil being so obviously out on a date.

[julix]

I thought it was so cut especially the way he responed with the um....okay and the blush(how sweet) My husband and I are comming up on 6 years...he has his boards and is trying to give me tips.... :nervous:

[Laura]

Why don't you invite him to join us on Fleets. Then Bomb and I won't be the only couple.

[julix]

I know he is so busy with like three other forums he does and he plays Star Wars Galaxies(online) and bulids computers and is super Dad etc.....he is spread a little thin................... :D

[Laura]

Too bad. It would've been fun.

[bsg1fan1975]

i'm just a plain old fashioned gal. what you see in here is what you get.

[Laura]

The world need more people like you, BSG.

[unowhoandwhy]

OK, here goes:

"My name is Jen and I am addicted to Colonial Fleets, vanilla ice cream, and men in uniform (not necessarily in that order)."

[bsg1fan1975]

i was raised to be old fashioned like my mom and dad wanted

[julix]

Uno(Hi Jen)


I agree with you about the men in uniform...just imagine Apollo and Starbuck in their uniforms and feeding me spoons of ice cream...............what a dream............ :blush: :D

[Laura]

I am rather fond of the red uniform worn by the RCMP's!

[Rowan]

They do "look" good but the days of them behaving like gentlemen in this neck of the woods are long gone! I see nothing but offensive behaviour from them now they are getting more and more violent with the way they deal with people, I'm fast losing respect for them unfortunately. They used to make me feel safe now I fear and loath them.:/: :(

I've discussed this with the people in charge of their schools in BC and they tell me things are changing for the future, more social studies and psychology courses are helping but that the transition between old school and new school will take time.

[Laura]

That's interesting. I have read a lot about the good way that the RCMP has handled things in the past, especially in regards to carrying out the peaceful policies that Canada followed with the Indians, in contrast to the way that America handled them. If the RCMP has really squandered all that good will, that's a real shame.

[amberstar]

i'm just a plain old fashioned gal. what you see in here is what you get.

Same here! ;)

[Rowan]

That's interesting. I have read a lot about the good way that the RCMP has handled things in the past, especially in regards to carrying out the peaceful policies that Canada followed with the Indians, in contrast to the way that America handled them. If the RCMP has really squandered all that good will, that's a real shame.
I know Laura but in Canada the RCMP also can be employed as local police and it's generally in that role that they run into problems. :/:

[Rowan]

Like our Star Goddess bsg1fan1975, what you see here with me is what you get: I'm deadly serious when I post as such, and I'm a big of a flirt offline as I am online ;)

Just ask TracyB! :D
I have to agree with Warrior and bsg I'm the same person here as I am off line:D ;)
I'm NOT old an fashioned girl though! LOL!;) :D

Oh Tracy......;) :D

[Bombadil]

Ah, yes. Online vs. offline personalities. In my case, there is a difference, but when I think about it, it isn't so much online/offline. It's the "class clown" thing. "Showing off" in public. Guilty! As a teacher, I was struck by how often I would describe a child as being talkative, sometimes to the point of being disruptive, and the parent would reply that "he's not like that at home; he hardly ever talks at home." Very common. I was like that myself as a student. Even now, I still get told that I am very reserved, to the point of being stand-offish, at first, but that I am a different person when you get to know me. Haven't gotten over that in fifty years; probably never will.
But I enjoy relaxing with friends and saying what I really think. Getting past the wall of reserve. That's why I started this thread--to see if it can be done online.

[Laura]

Old fashioned. . .what does that mean? A lot of things that are old are not good. For instance racial prejudice is old fashioned but not good. Being a harlot is very old fashioned but again not good. So if you mean holding to moral principles like don’t lie, cheat, steal, or commit adultery then I am old fashioned. If you mean wearing outdated clothing and never have any fun then I am NOT old fashioned.

[kitty]

I wouldnt say that there is much difference in my on line/ off line personality.
The only difference on line, is that my humour is toned down a fair bit, but that is because this is a pg board. In real life people may find my sense of humour be a bit bluer, and I joke alot more.

[Bombadil]

Yes, humor! The oil of human relations, but can get you into so much trouble! I can't recall how many times I have put my foot in my mouth by making a joke that somebody misunderstood and took wrong! Actually, that's one of the reasons I am so reserved: I am often afraid to say something wrong, so I will say nothing at all. ("It's better to stay silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." Words to live by! LOL!) Partly that's because I tend to crack jokes that fly right over many peoples' heads. I love atrocious puns and arcane references. So I have to be real careful not to go too far and hurt somebody's feelings.

[unowhoandwhy]

I am very reserved when I first meet people and, once I feel comfortable, I become more outgoing. I am very honest (sometimes brutally so, I have been told) which tends to get me in trouble.

As for being what my parents wanted me to be, I rebelled against family tradition by joining the Army instead of the Navy, but that was about it for being "bad." I was just angry that my mother wouldn't help pay for college. Now I wish I had joined the Navy... or tried for a scholarship.

[cranky1c]

I'd say I'm pretty close to authentic on these boards. I'm mindful that there is an inverse relationship between the distance from personal contact and the level of manners people show, so I tend to over-correct in the direction of being polite. I'm also mindful that I come here to kick back and have fun, so I resist the urge to fight when I read something that I find especially provocative or irritating. Aside from that, the sarcasm is real.

As for being old fashioned. I figure that whatever fashion I am will become old sooner or latter.

[Ian_W359]

I think that my online persona is pretty similar to my real self - quiet most of the time, only saying things when they need to be said, but I do have the odd moment of madness.... :P:

One thing I agree with other posters in this thread is the use of humour/humor - there are things I can say on-line but not off-line, and vice-versa.

Ian W359
:)

[amberstar]

Old fashioned. . .what does that mean? A lot of things that are old are not good. For instance racial prejudice is old fashioned but not good. Being a harlot is very old fashioned but again not good. So if you mean holding to moral principles like don’t lie, cheat, steal, or commit adultery then I am old fashioned. If you mean wearing outdated clothing and never have any fun then I am NOT old fashioned.

I think BSG and I ment Old fashioned like the girl next door. Morals and values that you mentioned above;)

[Laura]

BSG and Amberstar,
That is indead what I meant. Thanks:)

[Bombadil]

I think that my online persona is pretty similar to my real self - quiet most of the time, only saying things when they need to be said, but I do have the odd moment of madness.... [yup!]:P:

One thing I agree with other posters in this thread is the use of humour/humor - there are things I can say on-line but not off-line, and vice-versa.

Ian W359
:)How many famous humorists were overcompensating for private feelings of inadequacy? What were they like at home with the family in their high school years--men like Robin Williams, Bob Hope, Red Skelton, Bill Cosby?
And how many people who can really liven up a party sit around and worry that "nobody really likes me, everybody laughs at me behind my back. . ."?
Just wondering. . .

[jewels]

Like our Star Goddess bsg1fan1975, what you see here with me is what you get: I'm deadly serious when I post as such, and I'm a big of a flirt offline as I am online ;)

Just ask TracyB! :DShoot! You don't have to ask Tracy. I'll vouch for him being a flirt just from observing him in person. hehehehehe :D

[Laura]

I think with most people you don't know what they are really like unless you take the time to really get to know them and listen for what they really mean not just what they say.

[Muffit]

I think with most people you don't know what they are really like unless you take the time to really get to know them and listen for what they really mean not just what they say.
So very true Laura... Getting to know someone is so much like a voyage of discovery. You have to really explore to understand...

:muffit:

[Bombadil]

Anybody else notice how quiet it's getting here? Is it just the summer doldrums, or will it only be cured by the new show actually starting to air?
January 2005. . .that's a long way away. . .

[thomas7g]

Shoot! You don't have to ask Tracy. I'll vouch for him being a flirt just from observing him in person. hehehehehe :D
The guy is just damn tall!

Why does every bg fanguy tower over me?!

:D

LOL

[thomas7g]

Anybody else notice how quiet it's getting here? Is it just the summer doldrums, or will it only be cured by the new show actually starting to air?
January 2005. . .that's a long way away. . .I take the slower pace as a good thing. I think all the BG sites are slower. Lack of news but also lack of petty fan wars. Speaking for myself I think that is a good thing.

I'm only just getting vback to posting. I was really too burned out. But at the same time, now I'm devoting more time to art. And doing BG art too!

[amberstar]

I have to agree with Tom. I kinda enjoy the peace and quiet of not having fan wars any more. The lack of news on BSG may also have something to do with the slower boards.

I just really think that some are just enjoying the outdoors of summer time, at least that's why I haven't been an active poster latley. ;)

[shiningstar]

Mozaltov on 28 years of being HAPPILY married.

[shiningstar]

I like not having the fan wars too. That was getting real OLLLLLLLLD real QUICK.
I like everyone getting along here. I only hope it lasts when the 'new mini series'
shows.

[Bombadil]

I like not having the fan wars too. That was getting real OLLLLLLLLD real QUICK.
I like everyone getting along here. I only hope it lasts when the 'new mini series'
shows. Probably won't. . .lotta people only want to talk when they're mad about something or other. But maybe I'm wrong. Hope so, anyway.

[Bombadil]

Mozaltov on 28 years of being HAPPILY married.
We thank you!

[Rowan]

congratulations Bombadil 1000 posts! your first basestar!:thumbsup:

[shiningstar]

Probably won't. . .lotta people only want to talk when they're mad about something or other. But maybe I'm wrong. Hope so, anyway.

ME too

[shiningstar]

We thank you!

Mozaltov on your first basestar :D

[thomas7g]

Those Gallmongering Cylons never stood a chance! Congrats!!!

[emerita]

I'm old fashioned...uh...or is that just old.......I love BSG and I am in OWD's audio, in the last battle scene, so if you want to know what Amberstar and I sound like, you will have to listen to it........

I am also a StarGate fan....well, that does cover alot of guys in uniform.....LOL.....I am an oldie here too, but went away for awhile because of reading all of the anger and harsh words , but, now I am back, but because reality bites, I am not able to post as often as I once did. The way I am in here, is the way I am all the time....no surprises. :duck: :blush:

[bsg1fan1975]

well the the 12th will be one month of marriage. still am the same person I was when i was single. sometimes I am a bit more rambunctious.

[Ian_W359]

Anybody else notice how quiet it's getting here? Is it just the summer doldrums, or will it only be cured by the new show actually starting to air?
January 2005. . .that's a long way away. . .

Hmmm, I'm not sure how I should say this.........

September 2004, not so far away, eh? :duck: (Sep 2004 is a rumoured date for UK transmission of BSG series.......... shhhh!)

All the best,
Ian W359
:)

(ps..... does anyone have a sleepy smiley? I could use one right about now... zzzzzz)

[emerita]

here you go.... http://www.computerpannen.com/cwm/otn/sleepy/blyawn.gif or http://instagiber.net/smiliesdotcom/cwm/3dlil/sleep.gif and http://instagiber.net/smiliesdotcom/otn/sleepy/yawn2.gif :salute:

[Ioraptor]

Its quiet like this on ALL the BSG boards.
I check for new posts and find a little flag here or there while I whistle the theme to TOS or play the drumbeats of the new one.

[bsg1fan1975]

finding that on alot of the boards I frequent. its down right painful to see that.

[shiningstar]

finding that on alot of the boards I frequent. its down right painful to see that.

Yes it is Bsg :(

[repcisg]

WELL lets wake every one up!

Yells repcisg as he runs through the lobby in his BDS.

[julix]

I am awake :D :D ;)

[repcisg]

Gee, it used to work real well, Julix I gues your the only one awake.

[julix]

well I am observant :D

[bsg1fan1975]

Me awake too! just been very busy lately.

[Dawg]

Gee, it used to work real well, Julix I gues your the only one awake.

We aren't as young and fit as we used to be, my friend.

Yeeesh.

;)

I am
Dawg
:warrior:

[unowhoandwhy]

We aren't as young and fit as we used to be, my friend.

If anyone is as young and fit as they used to be, I'll buy their secret formula!

[bsg1fan1975]

O to be young again. Wait I am still young but my aches and pains make me feel 90! lol

[shiningstar]

here you go.... http://www.computerpannen.com/cwm/otn/sleepy/blyawn.gif or http://instagiber.net/smiliesdotcom/cwm/3dlil/sleep.gif and http://instagiber.net/smiliesdotcom/otn/sleepy/yawn2.gif :salute:

DITTO

[shiningstar]

We aren't as young and fit as we used to be, my friend.

Yeeesh.

;)

I am
Dawg
:warrior:

:wtf: who is :wtf:

:confused:

[julix]

If you are only as old as you feel and I feel old....what then????

[Rowan]

well even if I'm not feeling old (which I have been feeling lately) I'll head over there because as everyone here knows I LOVE thwackings and any excuse will do! thanks Warrior!;) :D

[Ian_W359]

Back to the subject at hand, this may sound a little bit 'Freudian'.....

To all the online RPG-ers/SIMM-ers out there, do you get the feeling when you write your characters into the story line, you are somehow imprinting your personality on them.

I was in an online RPG about 3 years ago and the main character I created was somewhat based upon myself, maybe also making up for what traits I lack....

What do you guys think?

All the best,
Ian W359
:)

[shiningstar]

Back to the subject at hand, this may sound a little bit 'Freudian'.....

To all the online RPG-ers/SIMM-ers out there, do you get the feeling when you write your characters into the story line, you are somehow imprinting your personality on them.

I was in an online RPG about 3 years ago and the main character I created was somewhat based upon myself, maybe also making up for what traits I lack....

What do you guys think?

All the best,
Ian W359
:)

That depends on the character. Sometimes I do ......sometimes I don't.

[bsg1fan1975]

same with me!

[julix]

I haven't really played much of the rpg games but if I did I would probably want to add things I lack....In all honesty and seriousness I struggle with very low self esteem.....I know a lot of people struggle with this issue, if anyone has any tips for me I would appeciate it.




:)

[shiningstar]

WELL lets wake every one up!

Yells repcisg as he runs through the lobby in his BDS.

If that doesn't wake people UP .........Nothing will :D :nervous: :duck: :nervous: :D